The Six of Pentacles has a lot to say about giving, a lot which seems to be pretty relevant this time of year. It instructs us to give, but give within our means. It tells us to be mindful in our giving, to balance our own needs with the needs and demands of our obligations. But there is another, perhaps more subtle lesson that The Six of Pentacles has for us to consider…
Giving freely and without expectations.
How many times have you found yourself emotionally invested in a gift that you have purchased for someone else? You have been anticipating how much they will enjoy it only to be sorely disappointed when they do open it and they don’t immediately declare it the most amazing present they ever received and shower you with appreciation.
This type of giving has expectations attached and expectations more often then not only serve to disappoint. If you need a specific reaction from a recipient to enjoy giving, it means you are making your joy contingent on the behavior of others and that’s a lot of pressure to put on someone, not to mention it rarely results in a satisfactory outcome. In essence what you are giving away is your power.
The Six of Pentacles asks you to give freely, without strings attached, without expectations, without a need for reciprocation. Its a healthy practice of selflessness.
Sometimes we aren’t able to give freely, we lack the emotional capacity or the resources or we are too depleted ourselves and that’s fine too. The important thing is to be mindful of where you are personally. Under most circumstances I don’t believe one should give out of a sense of obligation or because of pressure from others. Giving needs to come from a full and open heart, then it becomes its own reward.
Blessed Yule, Solstice & Christmas to you dear friends,